Dr. Gayani DeSilva MD
Sex and Romance
Gayani DeSilva is a Child Adolescent Psychiatrist with 20 years experience. She is the author of A Psychiatrists Guide: Helping Parents Reach Their Depressed Tween, and A Psychiatrists Guide: Stop Teen Addiction Before It Starts.
Stay at home orders may seem romantic for couples, but for many singles, this self-isolation interrupts their dating process and prolongs being single. Swiping left or right seems like a not activity when meeting is out of the question for at least several weeks.
Virtual dating may be a solution. Instead of texting for weeks before meeting, text a few times, and then have a virtual date. Discuss what you might do on this date--share a meal via FaceTime or Skype, exercise together, take a walk, play a musical instrument to each other, paint together. Use your video platforms to share time together even if not able to meet in person.
Pay attention to your feelings of loneliness. Reach out to friends and family. Use social Media to stay connected. Hold back from oversharing, and expecting to find the love of your life during this crisis. It may happen, but be wary. People tend to have exaggerated feelings during times of crisis.
For those of you who are quarantined with loved ones, don’t forget about your single friends who are alone. Reach out to them by seeing random texts, and make those phone calls just so say hello for a few minutes.
If you are dating, reach out to your dates, eve if it’s early in the process of starting a relationship. The “rules” are different. Do not wait for him or her to call you first. Reach out, express your interest. Express your feelings more often than you might typically.
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