Speaking Point: Miley Cyrus, 17, has been seen going out a lot recently. Clubs normally do not allow teenagers who are under 21 into a club, others are 18 but Miley is ONLY 17. Her parents are obviously not stopping her, nor are anyone in her inner circle, managers, publicist etc. We have seen how Lindsay Lohan and Britney Spears, to name a few, turned out. What’s up?Dr. Sheila Forman is both a clinical psychologist and attorney who comments on the psychological and legal issues affecting our society today. She is the author of several self-help books, a radio host, and is on the faculty of Loyola Marymount University.
Speaking Point: Children need boundaries. Saying no to a child creates such boundaries and in doing so makes the child feel safe. When a child grows up without boundaries they may experience a lot of internalized anxiety which they may try to alleviate by any means accessible – drugs, alcohol, food, sex.
Speaking Point: Age-appropriate treatment and boundaries is usually the way to develop healthy behaviors and good self-esteem. Allowing a child/teenager to have age-appropriate experiences is important to their social and psychological development. Treating young people as adults when they are not ready handle the role of adult (because they are not mature enough or psychologically developed enough) could lead to confusion, behavioral problems and mood disorders.
Speaking Point: Without boundaries people could learn to disrespect authority. They might not understand limitations –theirs and others, which could lead them into trouble.
Speaking Point: In some situations parent are lenient because (1) they want to be their child’s friend ( instead of parent); (2) they don’t want to repeat what they believe were their parent’s mistakes; or (3) they don’t have good parenting skills and just don’t know any better.
Speaking Point: Generally speaking it is possible for parents to be intimidated or afraid of their child. If parents depend on their child for their financial security the roles might be blurred and the parent may not act very "parently” out of fear of what they might lose.