Speaking Point: Can You Be in Love with Two People at the Same Time?
The other day in the gym locker room a woman approached me for face cleanser. When she heard me reply with an English accent, she was very excited and asked my line of work. "A spiritual advisor," I said. She squealed in delight and immediately asked if I could tell if the guy she had just met was her twin flame. Later she revealed this guy was engaged but she knew it was love. I knew this was the beginning of heartbreak. "The fiancé was awfully unfriendly," she told me. Of course, she was I thought. The guy was a piece of work. How could she be into him?
Speaking Point: Danger Sign #1 Feeling attracted to someone who comes on strong, telling you how great you are, then backs off suddenly without warning. E.g. A series of text messages and meetings and then no contact, only to resurface a few days later.
Speaking Point: Danger Sign #2 He tells you he's in a relationship but it isn't love. The woman I met in the gym asked her supposed twin flame if he was in love with his fiancé. He replied, "I've been in the relationship 5 years". So why does this woman think it's love? And why is she willing to invest time in a relationship that already has two people?
Speaking Point: Danger Sign #3 Flattery Will Get You Everywhere. If a guy is extremely complimentary, telling you how beautiful and sexy you are upon first meeting, it's a red flag. If he texts you "I know we've only just met but I love you," it's likely that he's a good talker and his actions won't match his words.
Speaking Point: Conclusion: What is the reality of the situation. Not what he texts you or says to you on a last minute date. If he wants to meet after 10pm at night, it's nothing more than a love fantasy. Steer clear and know that there is someone emotionally available and mentally healthy who wants true love. The saying "All the good men are gone," is a myth.