Speaking Point: With so many high-profile divorce cases, such as the recent split of Jennie Garth and Peter Facinelli, many people are wondering "What does it really take to make a marriage work nowadays?"
Speaking Point: As people continue to live increasingly independent lives, where one or both partners is traveling, it can be difficult to fight the erosion of intimacy. A married couple can keep the passion alive by working on it. Everything workthwile takes work. You don't expect your car to run if you don't change your oil, and you can't expect to be in great shape if you don't go to the gym. Love is a verb, you can choose to practice loving your partner and committing to your relationship.
Speaking Point: Schedule time to talk privately either using Face Time or Skype. Technology now allows us to see one another – take advantage of this. Often times when couples are traveling or spending time apart, everyday tasks, work and social engagements can cause us to lose track of time, leaving couples without the opportunity to have a real conversation. It becomes an exhausted end of the day rushed hello or a quick between meetings chat. It is important that couples schedule time to talk to one another. Communicating is the key to intimacy. Put it in your calendar, block 30 minutes of time and stick with it – treat it as a phone call with the President, a must attend meeting. That way, you will not push it aside. Making time for one another, regardless of the physical distance, must be a priority.
Speaking Point: Tip #2: Send love letters while spending time apart. Take five minutes out of your day to express yourself – what you are feeling and what you are missing about the other person. Drop the letter in the mail. Having something tangible, a card or a piece of paper with your handwriting, possibly your scent is more exciting and intimate than a text or email. I lead international retreats and I will write a love letter carved on a piece of wood.... It's unique and my husband respects the creativity.
Speaking Point: Tip #3: Have phone sex. At first you may be timid but work your way into it. It keeps you connected to your mate, builds excitement and will undoubtedly leave a lasting impression on you and your significant other. It is something to think about and look forward to while traveling, away on business or if you are having a long distance relationship.
Speaking Point: Tip #4: Do something that gives you commonality, regardless of the distance. For example, you should read the same book while apart. You can share your thoughts and feel like you are doing something together. Books connect people and give them a common ground for conversation.
Speaking Point: Infidelity won't happen if you found the right partner, because you don't want it to happen. The repercussions are never worth the thrill. It's a choice. I also know that, in my own marriage we give each other a lot of freedom and a long leash, which we both appreciate. It shows that we trust each other.