Speaking Point: There is this crazy phenomenon going on in the NBA these days.
Jeremy Lin, a virtual nobody, going nowhere in his basketball career, has become the biggest thing for the New York Nicks and the NBA in a very long time.
In an abbreviated season of 2012, due to the collective bargaining fiasco of billionaire owners and millionaire players, Jeremy Lin has become the refreshing story of the year.
Jeremy Lin is an Asian American young man, who had a passion for basketball and a dream to play professionally...But, no one really believed he would become the superstar he has become in the last few weeks!
Jeremy Lin, 6'3", born 8/23/1988 was raised by his Chinese immigrant parents, both standing 5"6".
He was a good athlete and an even better student.
Speaking Point: Recently, in an article by The St Louis Post Dispatch, I was coined "the Anti-Tiger Mom," in reference to the book by Amy Chua, "The Battle Hymn Of The Tiger Mom." Chua's book set off a firestorm of reaction by Western Parents last year as she describes the Chinese way of parenting with its intense control and scripting of her children's lives. While I don't see myself as the "Anti-Tiger Mom per se, I do take exception to the "scripting out" of our children's lives at the expense of their own voice, their own vision and their own dreams.
Speaking Point: Mr. and Mrs. Lin are Chinese immigrants, so one would assume culturally, they were taught to parent their children to the script they have for them. I cannot imagine that they would have predicted that their son would be almost a foot taller than the rest of the family, let alone strive to be a professional basketball player. It's not a very popular career path for people from Asian families, as evidenced by the few Asian players in the league.
Speaking Point: So Jeremy, their son, graduates from Harvard University with an economics degree, which seems to fit the high standard and vision that Amy talks about in her book. And yet Jeremy didn't go on for his MBA at another Ivy League school. He didn't join a major stock brokerage firm on Wall Street. Jeremy Lin, born and raised with the same cultural parenting philosophy as is touted in the "Battle Hymn Of The Tiger Mother, pursued a career in the NBA! What could his Tiger Mom have been thinking to have allowed such a thing? The NBA, when you have a Harvard diploma? And as a career backup, being shuffled around the league from one team to another.
Speaking Point: On Jan 28, 2012, when Baron Davis had a setback in his return to the NY Knick' s line-up, the birth of LINSANITY began. You see, I do believe as I wrote in my book, "The Real Purpose Of Parenting, The Book You Wish Your Parents Read" that we must set our own standards high and teach our children to be the best that they can be. Mr. and Mrs. Lin did a very good job of that with their son Jeremy, didn't they? I also believe that if you believe in yourself, and you show up to your moment, you will not just thrive, but excel.
Speaking Point: Mr. and Mrs. Lin must have coached that value as well because Jeremy has certainly believed in himself, persevering through all his setbacks, only to show up to his moment of the opportunity given to him and turn the NBA upside down in the process. And yet these Tiger parents of his seem to understand something that perhaps other Tiger Moms don't get...that you can teach, guide and coach your child to the values you believe in...but, you cannot script out their view of themselves or their own experience.
Speaking Point: The Lins apparently knew what values they wanted to instill in their son...but they had no idea what he was going to do with it. None of us really do! Jeremy Lin is no investment banker, and he is no accountant, but he will need one soon.