Speaking Point: 7 amazing tips that can really help someone find love online and maybe avoid some of those notorious dating disasters.
Speaking Point: Rule of 3: No more than three exchanges online before setting up an in person date. When you talk to long online before meeting in person you start to create a vision of the other person that may or may not be true. To save yourself from disappointment and from the lookey-loos who are just online to chat and don’t ever intend to connect in person, move things offline as soon as possible.
Speaking Point: The Truth Shall Set You Free: Do people lie in their online profiles? Yes. But does that mean that you should too? Nope. Ultimately the goal is to meet in person, so don’t you think they are going to figure out that you haven’t been able to fit into those skinny jeans since college when you actually meet them on a date? You end up with less heartache if you create a profile that shows the most flattering side of yourself but is ultimately truthful.
Speaking Point: Be Inclusive: Get as many people into the funnel as possible so that you can make the choices about who you want to go out with and get to know better. Often online daters make their profiles so exclusionary that they turn people off. Sometimes you don’t know exactly what you want or who you will like until you see and meet them so you want your profile to lean towards being more inclusive rather than less.
Speaking Point: Always do drinks on the first date: coffee, tea, soda, martinis, wine, beer. You want to keep the first date short. There’s nothing worse than getting stuck on a date that you don’t want to be on with two courses left to arrive.
Speaking Point: Always meet them there.: Safety is a concern for singles whether they are online dating or meeting through alternative means. Until you get to know and trust someone you meet online it’s always a good idea to meet them in a public place and make sure at least one person knows the info you know about them (name, phone number, etc) and where you will be that evening.
Speaking Point: Don’t Get Schnockered: Nerves tend to drive singles to drink but in truth drinking and first dates don’t mix. You want to be able to make smart decisions and stay present in the conversation. No one looks cute when they are stupid drunk, if you don’t believe me, take it from Snooki. So if you want better relationship luck than she has, set a maximum drink limit for yourself before you get to the date. If things go well you may have the rest of your life to get drunk with them but the first few dates are not the time.
Speaking Point: Save the Sex: In my book I recommend waiting at least five dates. I don’t necessarily think you have to be in a monogamous relationship but you have to be at the place where you could have a mature, adult conversation about your sexual history. If you don’t feel like you could bring it up yet or you’re not sober enough to, it’s probably not the right time. But once you do decide to do it, by all means, please use a condom.