Speaking Point: People didn’t use to worry as much about dating safety because we were dating in smaller circles of people we knew through friends, school, work, or church. Now that the culture has changed and we’re meeting potential partners that we do not necessarily know online and in bars, you have to think about your actions. Rest assured that online dating is just as safe as dating through other means as long as you use common sense and follow some simple guidelines for protecting yourself.
Speaking Point: Always meet them there. Until you get to know and trust someone you meet online it’s always a good idea to meet them in a public place.
Speaking Point: Make sure at least one person knows the info you know about them (name, phone number, etc) and where you will be that evening.
Speaking Point: Set a drink maximum. I knew that at two drinks my decision making ability was compromised so I made a rule (after that 1 drink was my max.) Everyone’s tolerance is different but on a first date you want to make sure you’re staying clear-headed.
Speaking Point: Stick to one location. After a few drinks sometimes we become more uninhibited and when you might have met them at the location it might sound like a good idea to ride with them to get dessert or coffee or a movie. If the relationship has long term potential, save the second activity for another date.
Speaking Point: Trust your gut. If something tells you something about this guy is not right, don’t second guess it. You might not find out today or tomorrow but eventually your gut will probably prove to be right. Our animal instincts prevail in dating and if your antennae goes up when your with him chances are he could actually be a wolf.
Speaking Point: Google him. You can find out quite a lot about your date just by a simple google search. It’s not a good idea to mention what you found out about him online on the date but it’s a good resource to have. I have had clients catch dates in lies on their profile, find old relationship history, and learn more about what their date is like in a professional setting all by using simple, free, public search tools.
Speaking Point: Talk to them on the phone first. If they ask strange questions like wanting to know a lot of details about where you live or work or they seem off in some other way go ahead and abort the mission at that phase. If you don’t like them on the phone, you probably won’t like them more in person.