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Speaking Point: The journal Perspectives in Psychiatric Care noted that the bond between people and their pets can affect both physical and mental health, and that the grief reaction that occurs after a pet’s death is “in many ways comparable to that of the loss of a family member.” Speaking Point: When buying a pet, one doesn't usually think about what the consequences will be when they die; for some reason, we think pets are immortal. However, four months ago I was in a pet store with my 3-year old daughter, Ava. She really wanted a pet. I travel frequently so I wanted to get her a pet that was easy to take care of and that had a long life expectancy. Thirty minutes later, we walked out of the store with a turtle. I was told turtles live up to eighty years and low maintenance. She fell in love with it and nurtured it. She learned how to feed it, play with it, and just watch him be. She even named him. She chose the name Carly. First thing in the morning, she would run to the tank and check-up on Carly and feed hi Speaking Point: One tragic morning Ava woke up and went to greet Carly, but his time he was floating, dead. My daughter broke down in tears. The first thought I had was how do I handle this situation delicately but truthfully. I had a German Sheppard for a decade as a child and when she died, I felt a part of me died with her. I also hear about the painful feelings of losing a pet from my clients. It seems, most of the time, we attach the same emotions to a pet passing as we do a human being because pets are there for us emotionally. They love us unconditionally, and don’t judge us. And, Companion animals provide support, love, and loyalty, which may be beyond empirical measure. Speaking Point: : Some tips on helping a child recover from the loss of a pet is to allow them to have their feelings. Let them cry and express their pain. It’s healthy. Don’t tell them to be strong. It’s important for them to let it out and grieve. Then allow them to let you know when it’s time to get a new pet. One of the big mistakes parents do is rush off and try to replace a pet when the key is not to replace a pet but to get a new one when emotions have healed. That goes for adults too. Speaking Point: 3 specific Strategies for dealing with the loss of a pet for people in general is: 1.. Allow yourself grieving time. 2. Give a proper burial. 3. Don’t buy a new pet until you’re ready to love again, without replacing your beloved pet that passed. 3. Put up a picture of your pet and remember the positive feelings and enjoy those moments and try to eventually celebrate your pet/family member’s life. 4. Remember love is love. After grieving, focus on the gift of your beloved pet that you had instead of the loss you suffered with the pet passing.
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