Speaking Point: I foretold Amy Winehouse's death in my latest award-winning book, Bad Girls: Why Men Love Them & How Good Girls Can Learn Their Secrets. I wish she would have listened to my advice. I described her as an Addict type of bad girl - one of the Dozen Dangerous Damsels. www.badgirlsbook.com
Speaking Point: I wrote: In her song, "Rehab," Amy croons, "They tried to make me go to rehab, but I said, 'No, no, no!'" However, her rebellious abuse of alcohol and drugs has caused her to overdose and threatens her stardom and her life.
Speaking Point: Amy obviously had a dysfunctional relationship with her dad - a taxi driver turned lounge singer - who made her feel unlovable, and caused her to be attracted to bad boys, notably her husband, Blake Fielder-Civil. He was her enabler. Amy did not get the love she needed from her mom either, who was quoted as saying that she knew her daughter was killing herself and wanted to know what cemetery Amy wanted to be buried in. When Reg Traviss dumped her, it was the last straw.
Speaking Point: The "27" club has become a sort of self-fulfilling prophecy, by making the idea glamorous to troubled musicians approaching this age. These musicians do not want to face turning 30, which seems to entail having to become mature and responsible.
Speaking Point: Bad girls (and bad boys) are made to seem the most glamorous and are getting all the attention. This conveys the damaging message that average people should become like them to get the attention they crave, too.
Speaking Point: More should be done to educate young people about drugs, alcohol and addiction. But, the most powerful contributor to addiction is parents not giving their children enough love and attention. They feel empty inside and look for substances to fill them up.
Speaking Point: In my book, Bad Girls, I describe 12 different types - the dozen dangerous damsels, and I explain what makes them tick. It all goes back to childhood, having been made to feel unlovable by their dad, and then being attracted to bad boys who break their hearts and continue to make them feel unlovable. This makes the bad girl take her heart off her sleeve and harden it, going after men only for what they can give her. An addict type of bad girl looks for an enabler.
Speaking Point: When celebrity addicts get publicity for their addiction, it does reinforce their addictive behavior. They are less interesting to the media sober, which challenges their recovery because they have an endless need for attention. Celebrities are especially vulnerable to being sent over the edge when they feel their celebrity status slipping.
Speaking Point: It is disgraceful that Amy's mother sat back and said that she expected Amy to die - while her mother did little or nothing to get her help. Her mother was happy enough to benefit from the money Amy made, but could not spare the time to devote to getting Amy help. It should have been her daily quest.