Hell bent on being fully self-expressed, Dr. Diana Kirschner practices what she preaches. After overcoming being socially phobic and mute as a child, she became the GO-TO psychologist for TV talk and reality shows with a proven track record of high ratings. Dr. Diana has appeared on OPRAH, GOOD MORNING AMERICA, NIGHTLINE, ACCESS HOLLYWOOD and is a recurring guest on the TODAY SHOW. Dr. Diana's bestselling dating advice book, Love in 90 Days, is the basis for her own one-woman PBS SPECIAL, Finding Your Own True Love.
In January, 2009 FOX'S MORNING SHOW WITH MIKE AND JULIET issued an official challenge to Dr. Diana: Could she really help someone to find love in just 90 days? True, lasting love? Over 13 consecutive weeks Fox viewers watched and RATINGS HIT AN ALL-TIME HIGH, as Dr. Diana helped 37 year old Amelia go from zero dates to having 12 great prospects to a dramatic finale where a beaming Amelia found the One.
Dr. Diana is a funny, warm and unforgettable TV personality who has hosted a field segment on MONTEL; starred as the Love Specialist on THE SIMPLE LIFE, where she mentored Paris Hilton and Nicole Richie; & starred in Love in 90 Days Boot Camp, an Official Selection in the reality category of the 2006 New York Television Festival. She has been interviewed on 1000+ radio shows & has been quoted in The New York Times, USA Today, Time Magazine, The LA Times, Cosmopolitan, & People magazines Dr. Diana also has a long happy marriage and two grown children.
"I want people to have real love." says Dr. Diana, "It is the ultimate crucible of self-expression and true happiness. The key to a successful relationship or marriage is creating a great friendship that gives both of you roots and wings. You heal each others' wounds and inspire each other to be who you really are." After twenty-five plus years of marriage to Dr. Sam Kirschner, the co-founder of a fund of hedge funds, Diana says, "I've overcome an abusive childhood to find fairytale love, but it's taken a strong commitment to self and the creation of a relationship that is a cocoon of growth for both Sam and me. Today, my cup runneth over "massively. And yours can too!" Here's how:
"Choose Love" are you going to give love to yourself" This is the key question, whether you are single or partnered up. Reap the love that might be there. If you're single, don't throw the "nice ones out without giving them a chance. If you're married, bring out the loving side of your partner and take that nurturance in. The amount of love in your life right now is a reflection of the amount of love you give to yourself.
"Use the "What Could Be Bad Test" When you're afraid to speak your truth to a lover or anyone else, ask yourself, "What could be bad about what I want to say"" After you answer, ask, "And what could be bad about that"" Continue on until your answers get absurd. This will reveal the awfulizing thoughts that hold you back from full self expression.
"Move into Enlightened Selfishness" by giving to your partner, helping them to feel great about themselves and achieve their dreams and then reaping it all back during your own growth spurts. People evolve. You can't hold on by holding them back. You can't beat that process of change"you have to join it!
"Use Positive Paranoia" by looking for the loving aspects in your partner, even when he or she seems distant or unsupportive. Spend one day thinking thoughts like, "I bet he's thinking of me, even though he hasn't called." Or "He wants me to feel good about my job, even though he's critical about it." All partners have positive and negative reactions to loved ones. You can tip the scales to the plus side and reap more love by changing the focus of your own outlook.
Dr. Diana authored the #1 Best-selling Amazon short, 'The Ultimate Guide to Getting the Love You Want' & co-authored: Comprehensive Family Therapy, which was nominated by the Division of Family Psychology, American Psychological Association, as one of the 100 most important books written in family psychology; Working with Adult Incest Survivors; and Perspectives on Psychology & the Media.
Dr. Diana served on the Board of the Division of Family Psychology and is a member of the Division of Media Psychology of the American Psychological Association. She also worked with the American Psychological Association in their media campaign to "Give Psychology Away."